A few years ago, a woman in New York City tricked a couple hundred guys with a “Tinder Trap”.
She matched with 7500 men on Tinder, and outsourced messaging them to people who had a script for responses.
The conversations led to an invitation to a 1:1 date with her at a local park.
When the men arrived, they realized that it was a Hunger Games-like competition to win a date with her.
She instantly eliminated men under 5″10, ones who wore khakis and were named “Jimmy” (along with other criteria, like Trump supporters) and then had the remaining men do push ups, race against each other, and be interviewed before she finally narrowed it down to the “lucky” guy.
It was an interesting social experiment (and was supposed to showcase how shallow and superficial people are with online dating apps), but in my opinion the catfished men made a fool of themselves for a date.
To their credit, a lot of guys didn’t play along and left right away. But some of them stayed and competed.
It reminds me of the coaching world …
Someone posts on social media about an issue that they’re having, and they’re swarmed by 117 coaches in the next five minutes bending over backwards to try to get their business – even if the person didn’t ask for a coach.
“Pick me, pick me, pick me!”
The person isn’t making coaches do pushups to win their business, but it’s not the ideal way to start a coaching relationship.
I’m all for growing your business, but I prefer the approach where potential clients reach out to you.
If you show up every day (in the right places), share a compelling message, and invite people to take the next step to work with you, you won’t have to grovel and chase people for business.
If you’d like to learn how to get clients without jumping through hoops, my “Construct Your Dream Coaching Business” will do it.
The next one starts up soon, and you can get the details here: