When you’re in business, you can’t take things personally.
Just last week I had someone who verbally committed to joining my group coaching program, then decided (at the last minute) to not take the seat.
I admit, it was frustrating. He lives across the world, so it was a pain changing meeting times around to fit his time zone, and since it was so late in the game I couldn’t find another person for the group in time.
Despite being frustrated, I don’t hold anything against the guy. Sometimes things just don’t work out, so it wasn’t a big deal.
Life goes on.
I take this approach because of an experience that I had a few years ago:
Someone who does high-end funnels was trying to get my business, and after weeks of being chased I finally caved and did a call with him.
At the end of the call, I told him that I couldn’t commit at that time but would let him know if I needed his services in the future.
The next day he checked in with me. And he continued checking in constantly through the next week. It was getting very creepy and desperate, and I finally told him a firm “no”.
The result? He instantly dropped out of my Facebook group and unfriended me.
I’m not sure what his deal was. Maybe he was behind on his car payment or his mortgage, and nabbing me would have solved a problem in his life.
Regardless, he handled it the wrong way. He lost potential opportunities by acting like a baby.
Earlier this year, someone who I had a business relationship with surprised me with her actions. I’d done business with her before (as an affiliate for a program of hers), had her as a guest on my podcast, and thought highly of her.
She started pitching a friend of hers to be on my podcast, but I told her we were booked up. She continued pitching her friend to me, but once she clued in that I wasn’t going to make an exception just because we knew each other, she dropped me off Facebook and left my world.
When this happened, I lost a lot of respect for her. Unless she toughens up and gets a thicker skin, she’ll have trouble making it in business.
The Dalai Lama said; “We often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive, over-reacting to minor things, and sometimes taking things too personally”.
It’s ok to be annoyed and frustrated, you are human after all.
But you can’t act like a baby and have a hissy fit. Keep it behind closed doors. If you’re rejected, stay classy and move on. There are other fish in the sea …
A big reason why people act out is they don’t have enough irons in the fire, and need that particular client or opportunity to pay the bills. They’re too emotionally-attached to the outcome.
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